How Much to Spend on a Wedding Gift

Traditional etiquette states that you should base what you spend on the estimated cost of hosting you at the reception.

1. Follow Tradition

“If you think the couple getting married is spending an average of $100-$150 per person at their wedding, the price of your gift should equal that amount," says planner Anthony Navarro of Liven It Up Events.

1. Follow Tradition

The downside to this logic, though, is that it’s a per-person price. That means if you think the couple is spending $100 on food and drinks for each guest, you and your plus-one should spend $200 on the gift.

1. Follow Tradition

Of course, you shouldn’t forget that you’re already paying a pretty penny to attend the wedding—especially if it’s a destination wedding or during peak season.

2. Consider What You’re Spending to Attend

"You're likely paying for accommodations and even flights, so in that situation, it's fair to assume the bride and groom are conscious of how much everyone is already spending,” says Jason Reid, founder of Giftagram, a mobile app that eliminates the hassle of gift-giving.

2. Consider What You’re Spending to Attend

If you’re shelling out a lot just to be there, you can cut back on how much you spend on the present—your presence is a gift, too!

2. Consider What You’re Spending to Attend

“A wedding guest should always give what they feel best celebrates the occasion, taking into account their budget as well as their closeness with the couple,” says wedding etiquette expert Sara Margulis, co-founder of the wedding registry website Honeyfund.

3. Think About How Close You Are to the Couple

The average wedding gift amount hovers right around $100, which is a great place to start, and you can increase or decrease that based on how close you are.

3. Think About How Close You Are to the Couple

If you’re very close or related to the couple (and have the wiggle room in your budget), you may choose to spend more—about $150 per guest (or $200 from a couple).

3. Think About How Close You Are to the Couple

While gifts are expected at the wedding and bridal shower, stretch your budget by remembering when you don’t have to bring one. For example, gifts are not expected at the engagement party (though a card congratulating the couple is a nice touch).

4. Know When You Don’t Need to Give a Gift

And if you’ve contributed serious time or money by helping out with the wedding, like hosting the bridal shower or serving as the bride’s makeup artist on the wedding day, you’re not expected to spend on a gift, too.

4. Know When You Don’t Need to Give a Gift

By only bringing gifts to events where they are expected, the money you have to spend will go a lot farther.

4. Know When You Don’t Need to Give a Gift

It seems easy enough, but this one’s worth mentioning: Limit your investment to what you can actually afford, even if it’s less than what etiquette suggests.

5. Only Spend What You Can Afford

If you can’t find a single item that fits your budget, consider purchasing a few smaller items to total an amount that works for you (It’s also a great way to help the couple stock their home with items that are often overlooked, like measuring spoons or cutting boards).

5. Only Spend What You Can Afford

The couple wants you to be there to celebrate with them, so prioritize your budget however you need to make that happen—even if that means a smaller gift so you can cover the cost of the hotel room.

5. Only Spend What You Can Afford

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