6 Tips For Writing Your Own Wedding Vows

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Many couples include traditional vows, or components of them, in their own writings. Look to old wedding programs from weddings you have attended, or use online examples of religious or non-religious options, and take notes on the parts you find particularly moving. Remember, you do not have to include a whole section or paragraph, instead, you can feel inspired by the emotions and ideas they bring about.

1. Look to traditional vows for inspiration

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If writing is not your strong point, you can always start with a list of things you love about your spouse-to-be. Thinking of special memories you have shared, the best moments of your life together, or other positive qualities (of which there are surely many!), can get you feeling more inspired and able to get a good list going.

2. Start with bullet points

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Perhaps you know a friend who excels at writing, and who can help you turn your lists or bullet points into a narrative form that is going to work better in your ceremony. Of course, this doesn’t make it less personal, only more polished! Be sure to address this with your future spouse, because sometimes people prefer that they are truly written BY the person saying them. If that’s how your fiancé feels, remember it may be important to them, and simply have your friend 

3. Call in reinforcements

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scan over your vows for errors instead.

3. Call in reinforcements

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Although you may be writing or doing a more contemporary speech, you will want to make promises in your vows. It lends it more formality, and makes it more of a ceremony, even if your vows are not traditional.

4. Remember to include some “vow” type verbiage

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While we are fairly sure you didn’t plan to include anything R-rated in your vows, remember to avoid any inside jokes as well. They can be awkward for your audience, and can distract from the important message at hand. If you have an inside joke or nickname for your spouse, consider writing it in a greeting card for them, instead of incorporating it into the vows. Also remember to try to match the tone and style of your spouse 

5. Avoid inside jokes, cliches, or anything raunchy

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by asking if theirs are more formal, funny, lengthy, or concise. It may feel a bit awkward if you read a short novel while your fiancé reads three sentences.

5. Avoid inside jokes, cliches, or anything raunchy

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While some of the best poems, song lyrics and love letters of all time were scratched on cocktail napkins off the cuff, we suggest taking a bit more time in crafting your vows. One of many advantages in having time on your side is that you can have your precious vows copied to custom keepsake books, or even artwork for an incredibly special wedding day gift.

6. Give yourself time

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